Back to the Herd: Last Names & Patriarchal Law

When I got married, I was feeling rebellious.  I was engaged to a man who, like me, was from North Carolina. We were both the first children in our families to get married. Our parents were itching for a big event. My partner had also internalized many cliches of the millennial wedding industrial complex—particularly the … Continue reading Back to the Herd: Last Names & Patriarchal Law

On Love, Or How I Turned My Decade-Long Mental Health Journey into a Listicle

Part Four of the Dinner Party Special Edition Outtakes & Excerpts Series. Dear readers, may I present to you, a rather incomplete, but no less impressive list of various things that happened when I finally decided to stop hating myself: Relatives started asking if I got taller because I wasn’t slouching in an attempt to will … Continue reading On Love, Or How I Turned My Decade-Long Mental Health Journey into a Listicle

SGV

Part Two of the Dinner Party Special Edition Outtakes & Excerpts Series. I’m back in the San Gabriel Valley to have dinner with a good friend. Ivy—she’s just moved back from two years teaching English in Korea, and she’s living temporarily in our hometown of Arcadia while contemplating her next move. I live only about … Continue reading SGV

Coping Isn’t the Goal: Jameela Jamil and the Violent Narrative Against Women’s Bodies

On a cold November morning halfway through my sophomore year of high school, I was sitting in a hospital examination room feeling an acute sense of relief when a doctor told me I was not allowed to go out for basketball season. I’d lost too much weight to make physical activity viable. This relief was … Continue reading Coping Isn’t the Goal: Jameela Jamil and the Violent Narrative Against Women’s Bodies